Trusting in the Unknown
“We’ll get there!” I find myself repeating that phrase a lot these days. You may or may not know that life recently handed me a bunch of lemons so I put on my rose colored glasses and started the process of making lemonade. Medical issues are often private and difficult to talk about but I have decided to break the rules, face my fears and talk about my mastectomy. There are simply too many life lessons appearing on almost a daily basis – how can I keep these valuable insights to myself?
Anyway back to the power of “We’ll get there!” Those are the words that my plastic surgeon says to me all the time. At first I never noticed the saying because I was overwhelmed by everything that was happening. I was in pain, there was talk of chemo and radiation, plus I no longer had a left breast. I couldn’t see anything but the mental and physical scars I was faced with.
Then about five weeks into the process I actually heard the words he had been saying all along. “We’ll get there.” Huh? What?! I had to pause for thought. What does he mean we’ll get there? Are you kidding! Look what just happened to me! I’ll never be the same again. How in the world will anyone ever fix this mess!! Then I heard it again. “We’ll get there.”
I sat there with a million questions racing through my head, and it was at that moment I realized I couldn’t see the forest through the trees. Thankfully my plastic surgeon could see the entire forest. Heck he probably planted the trees himself. He knew every path, trail, and obstacle for miles around. Dr. Mark Goan of Finesse Plastic Surgery knew how to get me out of the scary dark place that had been thrust upon me.
Wow that one realization made the entire journey so much easier. From that moment on, I knew there was a plan. I still didn’t have the answers but I no longer had to stress over every little detail. All I needed to know was that, yes, there was a way out so have patience and “we’ll get there.” How comforting is that.
I suppose this is where faith comes in. It was time to accept the circumstances at whatever stage I was at and trust that there was a way out. I have to allow the unknown to exist and be okay with not having all of the answers. And isn’t that what faith is really all about? Trusting in the unknown. I never thought I would have to face any thing like this so of course I don’t have all the answers! Not even close. The unknown is so rampant in my life right now, all I can do is stop the brain from getting lost in that deep dark wilderness of negativity and what if’s scenarios. I must actively look up and begin to see the bigger picture.
Isn’t this a fabulous life lesson!
Just because we can’t imagine a solution or see a way out doesn’t mean it’s hopeless. Too often when we don’t understand something we give up or assume it can’t be done. I am amazed at the number of hours wasted in panic, stress or worry simply because, at that moment, we are faced with unanswered questions. Yet it happens all the time. When we are in unfamiliar territory we tend to focus on the problems instead of the solutions. We want answers and we want them now.
Unfortunately life doesn’t always work that way. I realize that not worrying about unknown situations is easier said then done, so it is one of those lessons we need to learn over and over again. Yet it really is quite simple. When life doesn’t go according to plan we must learn not to panic. We must accept our temporary current situation and trust that there is a solution that we simply cannot yet see. You’ll get there!
Wait. I got that wrong. It’s not you will get there. It’s we will get there. The we is the most powerful part of that phrase. Of course “You’ll get there” is a very supportive and encouraging thing to say and I’m sure doctors, coaches, managers, parents, and friends use that phrase all the time. However the negative imagination of the brain can be overwhelming when we go down the path of the unknown. Even being told that “you will get there,” just doesn’t cut it. Dr. Goan says “We’ll get there” and by changing just one single word, at least to me, that makes all the difference in the world. It brings in a whole new light to the situation. I could not see a way out but together maybe there is a solution. Whatever difficultly, problem, challenge, or limiting belief you need to over come, remember that the unknown is not a permanent situation. I encourage you to put on your rose colored glasses, find a recipe for lemonade, and realize that sooner or later questions are answered and we get there.
About Susan Sherbert: Negative thoughts dominate the adult way of thinking. Imagine how different your life could be if your thoughts were courageous, fearless, and passionate instead. Susan Sherbert brings awareness to the power of child-like thinking to help reduce fears, awaken dreams, and open the grown-up mind to exciting new ideas. She is the author of Grown-ups Don’t Skip and A White Hat and Rose Colored Glasses